Category: Just me rambling on

20 Pharses to Encourage Your Children

As parents It’s easy to get into the habit of saying “good job” or “you’re so smart!” as words of encouragement to our children.   

I thought I’d share this printable list of 20 encouraging phrases from http://rachelwojo.com/  these phrases focus on the value of kindness, hard work, improvement and perseverance.

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You can click on the link to get the printable PDF Encourage Your Children Printable.

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“Your never persuasive when your abrasive” Rick Warren

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It’s amazing how whatever stays on your mind throughout the week is addressed at church. God’s funny that way.

This past week my mind keeps a going back to several moments when people around me have been less then kind. Actually, down right abrasive with no good reason.

Their behavior leaves me feeling baffled. You see it’s not just one person this week its a few. I can’t help but think that it must be so hard to carry the burden of being mean on purpose. To be unhappy on purpose requires so more much energy then just smiling.

When faced with these moments I need to remind myself not to let their actions ruffle my feathers. As always, God reminds me I need to extend grace to these people and be a better person.

So if for some reason you suddenly see me stand back, you just may be the person who’s being abrasive. Don’t worry, I’ll be praying for you.

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Sharing my life message from my deepest hurts.

“Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts” – Rick Warren

This mornings message from our Pastor confirmed what I already knew. I wrote this post but had been holding back on releasing it because it’s painful. I know that my pain will help someone, someway, somehow. I am looking for ways to channel this hurt and to get my message across. I NEED everyone to understand that your actions can deeply affect other peoples lives. My topic: DRINKING AND DRIVING. I know some people will read it and think, this does not apply to me but it does.

We either have done it or know someone who has. Just because you’ve done something in the past doesn’t mean you can’t change it. You Can! You can help stop it. You can be the designated driver, you take away the keys. You can call 911 if you see someone driving erratically. Some people just keep doing it because they haven’t caught or the they think their past experience drinking and driving is funny.

Recently Jason Priestly was on the Chelsea Handler show and they gave each other a high-five while talking about their past drunk driving experiences. This is NOT funny! It’s not a laughing matter. This is nothing to be proud of. I will take my pastor’s message and run with it.

Here’s the post I’ve been holding back on:

Just about everyone knows my story. I lost my son because some man didn’t  have enough sense to know not to drink and drive. Furthermore, this man didn’t have fear of what would happen if he was caught drinking and driving. The main reason he didn’t fear: there were no repercussions for him.

This man had been “allegedly” caught drinking and driving more then twenty times – that’s right, that’s not a mistype – more then 20 times! He had the system figured out.  He gave different names, changed his name around ( first name as middle name and middle name  as first, etc, etc.)  He didn’t show up for court dates. They can’t convict you if you don’t show up to court.  Bench warrants didn’t scare him either. He had handfuls of warrants. He’s girlfriend wasn’t scared. She let him borrow her uninsured car on the night of the crash. The entire 6 years of the trial, I didn’t see any scared look or reaction from him at all. I never saw any compassion or regretful looks from this man. Believe me, I looked. As much as I hated looking at him, I looked for something that would indicate to me that he was sorry or regretful.

Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against someone having a drink but don’t drink and drive. I get so upset every time I see people on Facebook giving their friends the “heads up” of a DUI checkpoint. I immediately think “UNFRIEND” but than I get a hold of myself, I know I can’t reach people with my message if I “UNFRIEND” them. So please, If you think your friends are drinking and driving, let them get caught. Let them become afraid of the consequences prior to hurting or killing someone. You could save someone’s life.

This post and picture are from Tustin Police Department’s Facebook page

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On May 9, 2014, the Tustin Police Department Traffic Unit conducted a DUI/Driver’s License Checkpoint on Irvine Blvd. west of Jamboree Rd. As a result, 923 vehicles passed through the checkpoint, 322 drivers were contacted and no DUI arrests was made. Officers issued eight citations for unlicensed drivers and various other California Vehicle Code violations.

The deterrent effect of DUI checkpoints is a proven resource in reducing the number of persons killed and injured in alcohol or drug involved crashes. Research shows that crashes involving an impaired driver can be reduced by up to 20 percent when well-publicized DUI checkpoints and proactive DUI patrols are conducted routinely.In California, this deadly crime led to 774 deaths because someone failed to designate a sober driver. Nationally, the latest data shows nearly 10,000 people are killed each year were killed from impaired driving. “Over the course of the past three years, DUI collisions have claimed 3 lives and resulted in 51 injury crashes impacting members of our Tustin community,” said Sgt. Brian Greene.Recent statistics reveal that 30 percent of drivers in fatal crashes had one or more drugs in their systems. A study of active drivers showed more tested positive for drugs that may impair driving (14 percent) than did for alcohol (7.3 percent). Of the drugs, marijuana was most prevalent, at 7.4 percent, slightly more than alcohol.

According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), checkpoints have provided the most effective documented results of any of the DUI enforcement strategies, while also yielding considerable cost savings of $6 for every $1 spent. Nearly 90 percent of California drivers approve of DUI checkpoints.

DUI Checkpoints are placed in locations based on collision statistics and frequency of DUI arrests affording the greatest opportunity for achieving drunk and drugged driving deterrence. Locations are chosen with safety considerations for the officers and the public.

Funding for this checkpoint is provided to Tustin Police Department by a grant from the California Office of Traffic Safety, through the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, reminding everyone to ‘Report Drunk Drivers – Call 9-1-1’.

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For the love of a child.

Twice a week I attend an early learning preschool program with my youngest daughter. The program is run through an organization called “Think Together”.  Parents/Grandparents/Aunts attend with their child twice a week. One day you attend a parent component (workshop) while your children are in the other room learning and the other day you take an active roll in child’s education by assisting in all lessons, craft time, play time, carpet time, etc. I have seen tremendous growth in Ava since attending this program.

The program is planned and led by the director and the wonderful woman who facilitates the weekly parenting workshops (both of whom I just love). The “Teachers” are all volunteers through AmeriCorps (all of them are great!). Each Thursday, we are sent home with bag full of books to read to our children. Our children then draw a picture of their favorite book . On the following Tuesday, we share it. It is so amazing to see all of the children’s growth through their pictures. We then have our weekly parenting workshop that teach you parenting methods and exercises to try at home.

Some how, the weekly parent component classes have turned into so something special. The woman who facilitates the parent component has given the Moms a chance to not only learn and share parenting skills but also to share everything that is going on in our “Mom” lives. Our thoughts, struggles, proud moments and ideas. This has quickly become a place of growing but more important a room full very different women who have become friends. Some of us have become very close.

Today, we made sock puppets for our children. The sock puppet is to be used by our children or us to express feelings or to talk to each other; not as ourselves but as the puppet (I think this could work). The room was quite with all the busy moms/Grandma’s/Aunts working and sharing to create the perfect sock puppet to delight our children. I thought it was great, A room full of women brought together, creating sock puppets all for the love of a child. Amazing!

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http://www.thinktogether.org/early-learning/

http://www.nationalservice.gov/programs/americorps

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Happy Mother’s Day!

Mother’s day is so bittersweet. I am so thankful for all that God has given me. Every single moment, good, bad, sad and everything in between. My beautiful children and grandson have brought me so much joy.

My husband and girls made me this really big and wonderful breakfast this morning. I’m feeling so blessed.

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I ‘m going to keep it short and sweet today but my son shared this awesome duo with me yesterday. I thought I’d pass it along to you. I hope that you enjoy them as much as I did.  Have a blessed Mother’s Day.

2 Cellos – Thunderstruck

 

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My God given abilities are fantastic!

Ok, so in reading this mornings devotional it got me thinking(as it should). In Girl Scouts I am always telling my troop that we all have very different and very amazing abilities. Each one is different and when working together we can make a huge difference. Yet in my own life I sometimes feel it is necessary for me to learn how to do something that I am clearly not good at.

Let’s take braiding hair. I can not braid hair, even if my life depended on it. I’m always told how easy it is. Well, for me such a simple task is difficult…which bunch of hair did I just put over or was it under??? Okay, I think you get the picture.

But the reality is my girls are perfectly content with their unbraided hair. They thrive and survive all day long with their beautiful unbraided hair and I can do many other things that the other braiding mom’s just can not do. Maybe it’ll all make sense when I take the Knots and Latching class for my Girl Scout Troop but if that never happens, I’m okay with that.

Here’s the daily devotional that started these crazy thoughts of braiding hair.

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Your Abilities are God’s Map for your life
by Rick Warren
via: http://www.purposedriven.com/blogs/dailyhope/

“May he equip you with all you need for doing his will. May he produce in you, through the power of Jesus Christ, every good thing that is pleasing to him.” (Hebrews 13:21 NLT)
Once upon a time, there were some animals that wanted to start a school for animals. They decided the courses would include running, climbing, swimming, and flying. Then they decided that all of the animals should take all of the courses.
That’s where the problem started. The duck was better than his teacher at swimming, but he only made passing grades in flying and was very poor in running. So they made him drop swimming and stay after school to practice running. This caused his webbed feet to be badly worn, and his grade dropped to average in swimming. But everybody felt less threatened and more comfortable with that — except the duck.
The rabbit started at the top of his class in running, but because of so much make-up work in swimming, he caught pneumonia and had to drop out of school. The squirrel showed outstanding ability in climbing, but he was extremely frustrated in flying class because the teacher insisted that he start from the ground up rather than the treetop down. He developed Charlie horses from over-extension, so he only got a “C” in climbing and a “D” in running. The eagle was the problem student and was disciplined for being a nonconformist. For instance, in climbing class, he beat all the others to the top of the tree, but he insisted on flying to get there. Finally, because he refused to participate in swimming class, he was expelled.
The point is that God has designed specific animals to excel in specific areas, and he doesn’t expect them to do all the other things. When you expect everybody to fit in the same mold, all you’re going to get is frustration, discouragement, mediocrity, and failure. A duck is made to be a duck and not something else.
And you were made to be you. God has given you unique abilities, and he wants you to use them the way he intended.
Your abilities are the map to God’s will for your life. It points the direction. When you know what you’re good at, then you can know what God wants you to do with your life.

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My First Post!!!

Ok, so maybe not an actual post but a promise. I will get my blog to look better, lol. I will learn how to use this blog and how to design it.

So don’t be surprised when you look at my blog and its completely different. Soon people will be knocking at my door, waiting for me to help them with their blog. Hahaha, well I can dream.

Thanks for your patience while I grow,

Annette

 

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