Rules for Being Amazing, I just love this!
Rules for Being Amazing, I just love this!
As with any tragedy, there comes a time to observe the traumatic event’s anniversary. Many people believe that grief will wane with time. However, feelings of anger, guilt, isolation, loneliness, sadness and despair often occur long after the disaster.
On the anniversary of the September 11th disaster, many people find themselves once again contemplating the event and its tragic consequences.
Life threatening trauma, including learning that a loved one has been seriously injured or killed, can provoke unsettling emotional or behavioral reactions over a long period of time.
We always say: First there’s the crash, then the lifelong impact.
For many victims the anniversary of a tragic event, no matter how many years have gone by, may make the loss more real and bring out a rush of emotions. Often the pain increases and becomes more intense following the first anniversary. This is a normal reaction. Grief is a journey and everyone grieves in their own way.
If you are struggling with grief, call 877.MADD.HELP to speak with a victim advocate, day or night.
– See more at: http://www.madd.org/blog/2014/september/anniversary.html#sthash.Eps0WI9n.dpuf
10 of my brillant Brownies at Carol Fallon Riding Center
Am I relating the change in this blog’s appearance to life? Yes I am. This blog is forcing me to grow, to learn things I would never have dreamed that I needed or wanted to know. It’s forcing me to come out my comfort level and keep moving forward – mistakes and all.
Praying Mantis Meanings in the Realms of Animal Symbolism
The mantis comes to us when we need peace, quiet and calm in our lives. Usually the mantis makes an appearance when we’ve flooded our lives with so much business, activity, or chaos that we can no longer hear the still small voice within us because of the external din we’ve created.
After observing this creature for any length of time you can see why the symbolism of the praying mantis deals with stillness and patience. The mantis takes her time, and lives her life at her own silent pace.
A Quick-List of Praying Mantis Symbolism
These traitshave lead the mantis to be a symbol of meditation and contemplation. In fact, in China, the mantis has long been honored for her mindful movements.
The mantis never makes a move unless she is 100% positive it is the right thing for her to do. This is a message to us to contemplate and be sure our minds and souls all agree together about the choices we are making in our lives.
Overwhelmingly in most cultures the mantis is a symbol of stillness. As such, she is an ambassador from the animal kingdom giving testimony to the benefits of meditation, and calming our minds.
An appearance from the mantis is a message to be still, go within, meditate, get quite and reach a place of calm. It may also a sign for you to be more mindful of the choices you are making and confirm that these choices are congruent.
image and information from whats-your-sign.com
As parents It’s easy to get into the habit of saying “good job” or “you’re so smart!” as words of encouragement to our children.
I thought I’d share this printable list of 20 encouraging phrases from http://rachelwojo.com/ these phrases focus on the value of kindness, hard work, improvement and perseverance.
You can click on the link to get the printable PDF Encourage Your Children Printable.
It’s amazing how whatever stays on your mind throughout the week is addressed at church. God’s funny that way.
This past week my mind keeps a going back to several moments when people around me have been less then kind. Actually, down right abrasive with no good reason.
Their behavior leaves me feeling baffled. You see it’s not just one person this week its a few. I can’t help but think that it must be so hard to carry the burden of being mean on purpose. To be unhappy on purpose requires so more much energy then just smiling.
When faced with these moments I need to remind myself not to let their actions ruffle my feathers. As always, God reminds me I need to extend grace to these people and be a better person.
So if for some reason you suddenly see me stand back, you just may be the person who’s being abrasive. Don’t worry, I’ll be praying for you.
“Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts” – Rick Warren
This mornings message from our Pastor confirmed what I already knew. I wrote this post but had been holding back on releasing it because it’s painful. I know that my pain will help someone, someway, somehow. I am looking for ways to channel this hurt and to get my message across. I NEED everyone to understand that your actions can deeply affect other peoples lives. My topic: DRINKING AND DRIVING. I know some people will read it and think, this does not apply to me but it does.
We either have done it or know someone who has. Just because you’ve done something in the past doesn’t mean you can’t change it. You Can! You can help stop it. You can be the designated driver, you take away the keys. You can call 911 if you see someone driving erratically. Some people just keep doing it because they haven’t caught or the they think their past experience drinking and driving is funny.
Recently Jason Priestly was on the Chelsea Handler show and they gave each other a high-five while talking about their past drunk driving experiences. This is NOT funny! It’s not a laughing matter. This is nothing to be proud of. I will take my pastor’s message and run with it.
Here’s the post I’ve been holding back on:
Just about everyone knows my story. I lost my son because some man didn’t have enough sense to know not to drink and drive. Furthermore, this man didn’t have fear of what would happen if he was caught drinking and driving. The main reason he didn’t fear: there were no repercussions for him.
This man had been “allegedly” caught drinking and driving more then twenty times – that’s right, that’s not a mistype – more then 20 times! He had the system figured out. He gave different names, changed his name around ( first name as middle name and middle name as first, etc, etc.) He didn’t show up for court dates. They can’t convict you if you don’t show up to court. Bench warrants didn’t scare him either. He had handfuls of warrants. He’s girlfriend wasn’t scared. She let him borrow her uninsured car on the night of the crash. The entire 6 years of the trial, I didn’t see any scared look or reaction from him at all. I never saw any compassion or regretful looks from this man. Believe me, I looked. As much as I hated looking at him, I looked for something that would indicate to me that he was sorry or regretful.
Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against someone having a drink but don’t drink and drive. I get so upset every time I see people on Facebook giving their friends the “heads up” of a DUI checkpoint. I immediately think “UNFRIEND” but than I get a hold of myself, I know I can’t reach people with my message if I “UNFRIEND” them. So please, If you think your friends are drinking and driving, let them get caught. Let them become afraid of the consequences prior to hurting or killing someone. You could save someone’s life.
This post and picture are from Tustin Police Department’s Facebook page
On May 9, 2014, the Tustin Police Department Traffic Unit conducted a DUI/Driver’s License Checkpoint on Irvine Blvd. west of Jamboree Rd. As a result, 923 vehicles passed through the checkpoint, 322 drivers were contacted and no DUI arrests was made. Officers issued eight citations for unlicensed drivers and various other California Vehicle Code violations.
The deterrent effect of DUI checkpoints is a proven resource in reducing the number of persons killed and injured in alcohol or drug involved crashes. Research shows that crashes involving an impaired driver can be reduced by up to 20 percent when well-publicized DUI checkpoints and proactive DUI patrols are conducted routinely.In California, this deadly crime led to 774 deaths because someone failed to designate a sober driver. Nationally, the latest data shows nearly 10,000 people are killed each year were killed from impaired driving. “Over the course of the past three years, DUI collisions have claimed 3 lives and resulted in 51 injury crashes impacting members of our Tustin community,” said Sgt. Brian Greene.Recent statistics reveal that 30 percent of drivers in fatal crashes had one or more drugs in their systems. A study of active drivers showed more tested positive for drugs that may impair driving (14 percent) than did for alcohol (7.3 percent). Of the drugs, marijuana was most prevalent, at 7.4 percent, slightly more than alcohol.
According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), checkpoints have provided the most effective documented results of any of the DUI enforcement strategies, while also yielding considerable cost savings of $6 for every $1 spent. Nearly 90 percent of California drivers approve of DUI checkpoints.
DUI Checkpoints are placed in locations based on collision statistics and frequency of DUI arrests affording the greatest opportunity for achieving drunk and drugged driving deterrence. Locations are chosen with safety considerations for the officers and the public.
Funding for this checkpoint is provided to Tustin Police Department by a grant from the California Office of Traffic Safety, through the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, reminding everyone to ‘Report Drunk Drivers – Call 9-1-1’.
Twice a week I attend an early learning preschool program with my youngest daughter. The program is run through an organization called “Think Together”. Parents/Grandparents/Aunts attend with their child twice a week. One day you attend a parent component (workshop) while your children are in the other room learning and the other day you take an active roll in child’s education by assisting in all lessons, craft time, play time, carpet time, etc. I have seen tremendous growth in Ava since attending this program.
The program is planned and led by the director and the wonderful woman who facilitates the weekly parenting workshops (both of whom I just love). The “Teachers” are all volunteers through AmeriCorps (all of them are great!). Each Thursday, we are sent home with bag full of books to read to our children. Our children then draw a picture of their favorite book . On the following Tuesday, we share it. It is so amazing to see all of the children’s growth through their pictures. We then have our weekly parenting workshop that teach you parenting methods and exercises to try at home.
Some how, the weekly parent component classes have turned into so something special. The woman who facilitates the parent component has given the Moms a chance to not only learn and share parenting skills but also to share everything that is going on in our “Mom” lives. Our thoughts, struggles, proud moments and ideas. This has quickly become a place of growing but more important a room full very different women who have become friends. Some of us have become very close.
Today, we made sock puppets for our children. The sock puppet is to be used by our children or us to express feelings or to talk to each other; not as ourselves but as the puppet (I think this could work). The room was quite with all the busy moms/Grandma’s/Aunts working and sharing to create the perfect sock puppet to delight our children. I thought it was great, A room full of women brought together, creating sock puppets all for the love of a child. Amazing!